Note: This is the 10-year anniversary of a post originally composed as a SPOOF to a friend’s “how-to” on how to attract a girl’s attention. Read on and enjoy! (and perhaps learn a little bit, too)
My friend and I were musing over her dilemma of not having a man… As we were talking, I exclaimed, “You don’t flirt!” I went on to tell her how important flirting was to connect to a man. Then I gave her some tips on how to do it. Single women, here are freebies for you! The only caveat is… you actually have to be genuine. These aren’t “gimmicks.”
1. Laugh when he is telling you stories or jokes…even cheesy ones.
"hahahahahahahaha." Now, I know women rarely know when a man says something witty or important. However, the point is that you let the man know you are noticing him and think he is smart. You do not have to specify what you’re noticing.
"giggle giggle giggle."
2. Complement and affirm your future man.
"you are really smart, how do you know all that?"
"you’re pretty good at…" or "you are really funny."
"Thank you for helping me/with…"
Again… no need to be super specific. If the guy asks, what do you mean, just say “it’s hard to explain… it’s just how I feel, you know?” The “well maybe I am just a smart girl” thing is golden. The goal is to try to make your relationship a cut above the rest, that you two share a special connection. That you look to him as a special friend.
3. Try to develop in-jokes and in-language.
This one is a little harder. If you and a guy both find something funny, take advantage of that and bring it into future conversations. Quality relationships are about having a common “center.” Like visiting the John Deer factory, or playing Texas Hold em, or watching American Chopper. Sometimes I give ***yeah, you will never guess*** the look and she finds it hilarious so she’ll try to say things that will provoke me to give her the look. We also developed our own rules to the game of bloody knuckles.
4. Be knowledgeable in something cool.
If you can talk about something intelligent without sounding like you’re don’t know what you are talking about, then you are on your way to being a hopeless romantic. Guys dig this. Something intelligent is defined as something the man would be interested in knowing about. So that depends on the man. Make sure you give off the interested yet nonchalant feel.
5. Use the “look” and the “smile.” If you don’t have one, develop one. If you have one, refine it.
It is a skill to be able to hold a man’s gaze without making him feel creeped out. Wearing makeup helps this endeavor to no end. However, in gazing make sure you keep enough personal space. Getting too close to a guy too quickly is a definite negative. Let him lead in closing the personal space, but the girl should take initiative in giving the “look”. Try to communicate your interest through your smile and eyes.
The smile… I don’t know how to describe it but everyone has a smile they reserve for people they are attracted to. Some people have the “always smile” but they don’t know it so they attract people without meaning to. If you don’t get it, I’ll perform it for you sometime although it may take me a couple seconds as I may not really be attracted to you. I’ll have to imagine you as ***keep guessing*** or something.
6. Love God and let your light shine to all those around you.
There is nothing more attractive to a serious Christian man than a serious Christian woman. If you have your eyes set on a quality man, order your life in such a way so that you are actively learning about God, and constantly living in Christ’s calling. This one is hard, because it is the one thing you can’t do for your man, you have to do it for God, but it absolutely essential for your desired relationship’s long-term health. To see this more completely, begin to see your obedience to Christ as building up your man. I have much more confidence in a girl’s love for me if I see she is first and foremost committed wholly to God.
P.S.: If you like a guy and are wondering if he likes you back, be patient: if the guy likes you he will make it clear.
Sometimes, they don’t.
In future posts, I will examine burping and farting girls. I’ll analyze why they don’t work and how you can weave it into your life.
All credit for this theme should be given to Peggy Kao Enderle for her original entry.
All the above views are not necessarily those of M. Tang or N. Cole…but they could be. ;)